This question is a big question in my phase of life now. The dilema is to choose between to get married or to continue my study to Ph.D.
The thing is, family are pushing me so hard to get married at this stage of age. It is common in Indonesian should get married before 30s, or family will take care of it with so many different ways untill it's succedded. Well, they are actually worry about me. Their concern is, it is better to get married as soon. When my age reach 55, and I should be pension stage, my children will already mature that time and they can be independent. And hopefully, I will still able to see my grandchilds.
That is actually quite true. My cousin faces this kind of problem nowadays. As he getting pension and his children are still in college now.
The other thing is, Ph.D is my dream. It is just who I am. I am created to go that way. And I'm really really in the mood of studying right now. People say to get married and then get my Ph.D. But, I'm sure it will be tough and hard for my family. Less income will be so hard, especially in other country. How if we have a child. How if he/she get sick? Following questions in my mind. I'm thinking about finishing my program then get married. But, I also afraid it's too late like my family said.
However, upon that big question lays ahead other big questions?
Do you even have anyone close yet?
Do you get accepted somewhere for Ph.D program?
Hahahaha... Daydreaming!
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